My step-dad became obsessed with me when I was a teenager

CHLOE Songhurst, now 22, was six years-old when Keir Guidotti, 41, started dating her mum and moved into their family home.

But when she became a teenager, the step dad formed an unhealthy obsession with her – forcing her to call him dad, buying her underwear and constantly confessing his love.

Chloe Songhurst has spoken about how she was sexually abused by her sick step father from the age of 13Credit: SWNS
When Chloe became a teenager, the step dad formed an unhealthy obsession with her – forcing her to call him dad, buying her underwear and constantly confessing his loveCredit: SWNS
The 41-year-old predator touched the victim’s buttocks, thighs, side of her breast and above her vagina – sometimes beneath clothingCredit: SWNS

The predator touched her intimately – sometimes beneath clothing.

Guidotti also kissed the top of her breasts and between September 1 2021 and May 31 2022, he sexually assaulted her 13 times.

Police also uncovered a folder of photographs of Chloe‘s buttocks – while clothed – on his phone taken without her knowledge.

Guidotti’s sickening behaviour left Chloe, who waived her anonymity, hospitalised on several occasions, having attempted to take her own life.

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Chloe, who is a pregnant mum-of-one, told how Guidotti made “home feel like a prison” and became “overly affectionate” as soon as she was a teenager.

Chloe who lives in Wiltshire said: “He [Keir] step up to me as a dad from the ages of seven to twelve. From the beginning he was like my dad and we had a good relationship.

“When I turned 13 I was hitting my puberty and it started getting to me his constant need for hugs.

“I was becoming uncomfortable with how much I had to tell him I loved him, how much he would hug me and the fact I still had to kiss him on the lips when I said good night.

“But I had to do it otherwise it would turn into an argument if I didn’t. I would always get told to give him what he wants from me because he had stepped up for me as a dad. “

When she started at college at 16-years-old she revealed how the abuse became more physical.

Chloe also began self harming as a way to forget about the abuse.

She said: “If I didn’t hug him or text him back saying that I loved him he would push me onto the bed and he would scream at my face, you could feel spit on your face – that’s how angry he would get.

“The touching started as back scratches and foot massages. Every time he would come to the room he would scratch my back and then he would start scratching my legs and it would be over the top of the clothes.

“After a while it would go under my leggings and up my legs and it would go under my top.

“He would start rubbing me. He’d go up along my breasts and he would scratch there and he would come all the way up my thighs.

“There was a time where he started going in my waistline and his hands would be in my underwear and he would go around the top of my vagina and he’d gone under my bra a couple of times.

“He’d also kiss me on the top of my breasts, alongside with comments saying ‘you make me feel good’.”

Guidotti’s obsession with Chloe developed year by year to the point he bought her lingerie from online websites.

Chloe said: “He would say I had a really good figure.

“He would want to know when I was wearing the underwear and he would ask me to try them and and tell him how they feel.

“He would bring me his phone with lingerie websites and ask me what my favourite is and would order them for me even though I’d say I didn’t want it.”

WHERE TO GET HELP

Whenever it happened to you, it’s never too late to get support.

If you’ve ever experienced sexual violence or sexual abuse, you can get confidential support from specialists who will listen to you, believe you and understand how hard it is to talk about.

As a victim, you’re entitled to support whether you report the crime or not. Your rights are set out in full in the Victims’ Code. 

Visit gov.uk/sexualabusesupport to see the support on offer.

Chloe told how the touching started getting worse during lockdown – having attempted to take her own life for the the first time.

She was constantly in and out of hospital due to the self harm on her chest, legs and arms.

As a way to put an end to the abuse, Chloe’s partner Ollie Hall, 22, told his mum what Guidotti was doing to her.

She called a local police officer and the next day her step dad was arrested.

“I would not have ever done it myself and I would have never got myself out of that situation if it wasn’t for my boyfriend and his parents,” Chloe added.

During the police investigation Chloe was “shocked” to find out that Guidotti had a folder of photographs of Chloe’s buttocks – while clothed – on his phone taken without her knowledge.

Guidotti denied the string crimes, putting Chloe through the ordeal of a trial at Winchester Crown Court on June 30 this year.

The jury found him guilty for 13 sexual assaults on July 4 – when the victim was aged 17 to 19.

The defendant, of Pockeridge Road, Corsham, was jailed for 40 months on September 5.

He must register as a sex offender indefinitely and alongside that, he must comply with a Sexual Harm Prevention Order. A life-long restraining order was also imposed.

Chloe hopes her story encourages others who are suffering abuse to speak up, and report it to the police.

She said: “A lot of people do make you feel like you are not a victim and that you have done something wrong when you are just trying to get your voice heard.

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“I struggled to be touched for a long time. It took me a long time to get to a point that it wasn’t just talking.”

She said that the sentence is “not that long”, but feels that justice has been made.

What is grooming and where to get help?

What is grooming?

According to the Metropolitan Police, “Grooming is when a person builds a relationship with a child, young person or an adult who’s at risk so they can abuse them and manipulate them into doing things.

“The abuse is usually sexual or financial, but it can also include other illegal acts.”

Types of grooming

Grooming can take place online or in person and it can happen over a short or long period of time – from days to years.

  • Online and through social media
  • In person

Signs of grooming

  • Are they being secretive about how they’re spending their time?
  • Do they have an older boyfriend or girlfriend?
  • Do they have money or new things like clothes and mobile phones that they can’t or won’t explain?
  • Are they drinking or taking drugs?
  • Are they spending more or less time than usual online or on their devices?
  • Do they seem upset or withdrawn?
  • Are they using sexual language you wouldn’t expect them to know?
  • Are they spending more time away from home or going missing for periods of time?

A person won’t know they’re being groomed, they will trust their abuser who is giving them lots of attention and gifts. Also, their groomer may have warned them not to talk to anyone about it.

How to get help and support

Grooming is an offence. If you suspect a person is being groomed, even if you’re not sure, please tell someone. 

Is someone about to be attacked or hurt? Is a crime taking place right now? If yes, call 999 and ask for the police.

If it isn’t an emergency you can report grooming to the police on 101.

Charities and agencies:

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