Fresh off the success of her critically acclaimed career and Grammy wins, Victoria Monét is opening up about something far more personal than music: her complicated experiences navigating the dating world.
During a candid conversation on Angie Martinez’s “IRL” podcast, the “On My Mama” singer reflected on her relationships, revealing that dating women has come with unexpected frustrations — and emotional disappointments.
“Girls do me dirty,” Monét admitted with a laugh, before diving deeper into the emotional reality behind the statement.
“They Approach Me Sensually”
While many fans may assume dating women would feel more emotionally aligned or intentional, Monét shared that her personal experience has often been the opposite.
“My experiences are a little bit worse,” she explained. “Girls don’t really approach me seriously—they approach me sensually.”
According to the singer, many of her interactions with women have felt rooted more in fantasy and attraction than in genuine emotional connection. Rather than feeling pursued for a meaningful relationship, Monét says she’s often felt objectified.
“I would want it to be something more serious,” she shared.
Beyond Chemistry: Wanting Real Partnership
Monét’s honesty struck a chord because it touched on something many modern daters — regardless of sexuality — can relate to: the struggle to find authenticity in a dating culture that often prioritizes instant chemistry over emotional depth.
As she looks toward future relationships, the singer revealed that she’s become clearer about the kind of energy she wants from a partner.
Whether she dates a man or a woman next, Monét says she’s hoping for someone who naturally brings a stronger masculine presence into the relationship dynamic.
The revelation sparked conversation online, with many fans debating compatibility, emotional availability, and the growing disconnect people feel in modern dating spaces.
Vulnerability in the Spotlight
Known for her sensual artistry and confident stage presence, Monét’s vulnerability offered fans a different side of the star—one grounded in emotional honesty rather than celebrity polish.
Her comments also opened a broader discussion about how queer women navigate dating, desirability, and the challenge of being seen as more than just an experience or fantasy.
For Monét, the message was simple: attraction alone isn’t enough.
She wants intention. Consistency. Depth.
And like many people in today’s dating landscape, she’s still searching for a connection that feels real.
The Conversation Continues
Monét’s comments quickly sparked debate across social media, with many women sharing similar frustrations about dating dynamics, emotional unavailability, and unclear intentions in modern relationships.
The question now circulating online:
Are genuine connections becoming harder to find—or are people simply approaching relationships differently than before?